Consent Culture

 

OUR CONSENT MANIFESTO

 

We positively educate through ongoing conversations, marketing, signage, guided tours and more.

We take corrective action through community reporting to remove those who violate consent.  

Our community members are expected to positively contribute to our consent culture by reinforcing and participating in two key initiatives:

1. ASK first.  Get Consent, then get sexy.

2. We provide a safe space to say NO.  And if somebody does not respect your No thank you, we've got your back.

 

Can I Touch Another Member?

Eden is a little taste of paradise where women and couples can explore their sensual side, dress as sexy as they DARE, or even fulfill their naughtiest fantasies in person and online. You’ll be tempted by many beautiful sights, but, for the safety and comfort of all our guests, you must resist temptation and await an invitation or get permission prior to touching. Not sure how to ask? Here are some suggestions on how to navigate sexy situations with consent…

  1. If you want to kiss somebody...ask first. "may I kiss you"
  2. If you want to grab a boob...ask first. "may I touch your beautiful breasts".
  3. If you want to penetrate someone...ask first. "may I pound you with my raging hard cock" (while talking like Antonio Banderas)

 

How Can I Say No?

We understand that sometimes saying no can be difficult. Perhaps you’re concerned about hurting somebody’s feelings. Maybe you’ve been met with repercussions in the past.

If this is new to you, don’t worry…we’ve got you covered. Just say "no thank you" or "you have to ask first" - it's that simple. And, it's ok to do that at Eden. You are supported in protecting your boundaries.

Consent is a community initiative.  And we CAN NOT do this without your help.  We have thousands of members and only a few staff relatively speaking.

As such, we need this community to collectively help by reminding others of the requirement to first GET CONSENT...then get sexy.  This will really help to nip any issues in the butt (no pun intended) as quickly as possible and maintain a safe and sexy environment for all.

What might seem obvious to you may not be obvious to someone else.  Cultural, family, social and societal programming all contribute to an individual's understanding of consent.   For example, something as simple as a peck on the cheek might be expected by some but could actually be deeply triggering to others. 

This community cares.  Help each other.  Educate each other in a way that is compassionate and empathetic.  

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No Public Shaming

We DO NOT support public shaming – either in person at the club, or online. Education is a process and needs to be done respectfully and positively to be effective. Public shaming often leads to an unhealthy escalation and “poor outcomes because there is no pathway to repair.” For more details on this topic, check out this article here: "The Power of Public Shaming - For Good or for Ill"

Public shaming goes against our club ethics, spreads hate and also breaches our member privacy agreement/terms and conditions. Be a responsible human.  Use your voice to educate and report.

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What if I Experience a Consent Violation at a Party?

It is Your Responsibility to Know Before you Go

If you personally experience a consent violation, please take the following steps:

 

  1. Immediately advise the member that they do not have your consent.
    1. This can be done in a non-confrontational manner to avoid escalation. Simply say "no thank you" or "you have to ask permission first".  Most issues can be resolved through open, meaningful, two-way communication.

If you are unsure of wording, please feel free to refer to our consent posters hanging off the balcony at the club.

If you do not feel comfortable communicating your concerns directly to said person, advise a senior Eden staff member who will then work with you to create a resolution, educate or take action as necessary. You can generally find a senior staff member in our office all night, or at the entry to the play areas after 10:00pm.

How to Report a Consent Violation

At a Party

For less serious consent concerns, please immediately say "NO thank you".  At Eden, you are SAFE to say NO.  If somebody does not respect your no, or is engaged in what you feel is a more serious consent violation, please IMMEDIATELY stop what you are doing and find the Eden "Manager on shift" or the concierge at the entrance to the play spaces to attend to this situation.  It is important to tell the manager right away so that we can locate the member and take immediate action.  If you wait until later, we may not even be able to identify the offender.

After a Party

Consent violations reported after the party should be reported within 1 week of the incident to ensure positive identification of the member and accurate recording of the incident.

When consent violations come in post event, they will be recorded in the member’s file (assuming that this person can be positively identified based on the information provided).  This will help us to identify whether the user is a repeat violator and in the event of additional strikes, needs to be removed from our community.  If this is a first offence, it will be reported as a mulligan.  If it is a repeat offence, it will be reported as a strike. 

To report a consent violation after a party, please create a support ticket and include the following details:

Date of the party | User or first name and description of the person you are reporting | Description of the incident.

* Your report will be added directly to the user’s file for consideration with on site reporting provided we are able to positively identify them from your report.

 

What if I Witness a Consent Violation?

  1. Check in with the person you think experienced a “consent violation” and ask if they need assistance or if there was consent.
  2. If there was no consent, please take a moment to RESPECTFULLY educate the person on our CONSENT.
  3. We have a number of consent posters hanging from our balcony level showcasing our consent crew. Feel free to refer to these illustrations for guidance.
  4. DO NOT engage in public shaming – either in person at the club, or online. Education is a process and needs to be done respectfully and positively to be effective. Public shaming often leads to an unhealthy escalation and “poor outcomes because there is no pathway to repair.” For more details on this topic, check out this article here: https://theconversation.com/the-power-of-public-shaming-for-good-and-for-ill-38920.
  5. RESPECT and EDUCATION is just as important as CONSENT in our culture. Please do your part to help educate, guide and advise in a positive manner.

How Does Eden Respond to Consent Violations at a Party?

At Eden, we take consent seriously.  Our response system is based on a three strike rule plus a mulligan.

Three Strikes

  • First report (1) = warning and re-education.
  • Second report (2) = removal from the party
  • Third report (3) = permanent ban

The Mulligan:

A mulligan may be issued at the discretion of the person reporting the violation.  We offer this option as some victims may be hesitant to report if they feel the club response may be too harsh relative to what occurred which could in-fact have a prohibitive affect on the reporting.  The mulligan will still be reported on the user account but would not count as a strike. 

Our Approach

Our three strike rule plus a mulligan allows for education and the “human factor” (ie. genuine mistakes and misunderstandings) while making it easy to identify repeat offenders who just aren’t getting it or who have malicious intent.  It also gives those reporting a say in what happens next.

We believe that our approach to consent education combined with community participation will have a positive ripple affect throughout not only our club, but the community as a whole.

* Stealthing and non-consensual penetration are extremely serious and will result in an immediate ban at the discretion of the club.

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What if I Experience a Consent Violation Online?

It is Your Responsibility to Know Before you Post

 

Here is how to respond to online consent violations:

Somebody messages you without asking

  • simply block them under your settings and they will no longer be able to see your profile or send you a private message.
  • If you prefer, you can also change your settings online so that only friends can contact you.  Update your privacy settings here.

Somebody does not take your online NO for an answer.

  • Send a support ticket to admin and we will be happy to look into this for you and take corrective action.  

Somebody sends you an unsolicited dick pic in a private message

  • Send a support ticket to admin and we will be happy to look into this for you and take corrective action. 

Somebody sends you an unsolicited party sponsorship request in a private message

  • Send a support ticket to admin and we will be happy to look into this for you and take corrective action. 

 

How Does Eden Respond to Consent Violations Online?

At Eden, we take consent seriously.  Our response system is based on a three strike rule plus a mulligan.

Three Strikes

  • First report (1) = warning and re-education.
  • Second report (2) = two week suspension
  • Third report (3) = permanent ban

The Mulligan:

A mulligan may be issued at the discretion of the person reporting the violation.  We offer this option as some victims may be hesitant to report if they feel the club response may be too harsh relative to what occurred which could in-fact have a prohibitive affect on the reporting.  The mulligan will still be reported on the user account but would not count as a strike. 

Our Approach

Our three strike rule plus a mulligan allows for education and the “human factor” (ie. genuine mistakes and misunderstandings) while making it easy to identify repeat offenders who just aren’t getting it or who have malicious intent.  It also gives those reporting a say in what happens next.

We believe that our approach to consent education combined with community participation will have a positive ripple affect throughout not only our club, but the community as a whole.

 

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Can I send or post unsolicited Dick Pics or Explicit Photos?

At Eden, we love sexy pictures and celebrate the human body.  But,  dick pics, vaginas and images showing explicit sexual acts should only be sent in private messages after first obtaining permission from the recipient.  Get CONSENT...then get SEXY!

Explicit posts and photos of the same should be posted in private (password protected) albums or in the "Eden Uncensored" group only.

 

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Single Gentlemen & Sponsorship Requests?

If you are looking for a sponsor to one of our epic parties, we have a "wait to be invited" policy.  In other words, do not send private messages or post in threads asking for a date or sponsor to one of our parties.  And do not ask for sponsorship to an SOP party while attending one of our social, community or off premise events.  Respect our culture.  Make friends.  Be courteous and in no time, you'll be welcomed with open arms.

 

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Sexual Assault

Sexual assault is a crime! 

If you are a victim of sexual assault, please contact your local law enforcement in the municipality where the incident occurred.

Or, if you are hesitant or concerned about calling the police, call VictimLinkBC at 1-800-563-0808 to find a victim service program nearest you for confidential and anonymous support and help.

You can also visit Victims Info BC for a list of additional professionals trained in support services..

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