Consent Culture

Eden is a Consent based environment. In other words, ASK first.

 

Here are some friendly tips on how to handle consent whether in person, on a date or online:

 

Can I Touch Another Member?

Eden is a little taste of paradise where women and couples can explore their sensual side, dress as sexy as they DARE, or even fulfill their naughtiest fantasies in person and online. You’ll be tempted by many beautiful sights, but, for the safety and comfort of all our guests, you must resist temptation and await an invitation or get permission prior to touching. Not sure how to ask? Here are some suggestions on how to navigate sexy situations with consent…

  1. If you want to kiss somebody...ask first. "may I kiss you"
  2. If you want to grab a boob...ask first. "may I touch your beautiful breasts".
  3. If you want to penetrate someone...ask first. "may I pound you with my raging hard cock" (while talking like Antonio Banderas)

 

How Can I Say No?

We understand that sometimes saying no can be difficult. Perhaps you’re concerned about hurting somebody’s feelings. Maybe you’ve been met with repercussions in the past.

If this is new to you, don’t worry…we’ve got you covered. Just say "no thank you" or "you have to ask first" politely with a smile - it's that simple. And, it's ok to do that at Eden. You are supported in protecting your boundaries.

Consent is a community initiative.  And we CAN NOT do this without your help.  We have thousands of members and only a few staff relatively speaking.

As such, we need this community to collectively help by politely reminding others of the requirement to first GET CONSENT...then get sexy.  This will really help to nip any issues in the butt (no pun intended) as quickly as possible and maintain a safe and sexy environment for all.

What might seem obvious to you may not be obvious to someone else.  Cultural, family, social and societal programing all contribute to an individual's understanding of consent.   For example, something as simple as a peck on the cheek might be expected by some but could actually be deeply triggering to others. 

This community cares.  Help each other.  Educate each other in a way that is compassionate and empathetic.  

And, DO NOT engage in public shaming – either in person at the club, or online. Education is a process and needs to be done respectfully and positively to be effective. Public shaming often leads to an unhealthy escalation and “poor outcomes because there is no pathway to repair.” For more details on this topic, check out this article here: "The Power of Public Shaming - For Good or for Ill"

 

 

What if I Experience a Consent Violation?

If you personally experience a consent violation, please take the following steps:

 

  1. Immediately advise the member that they do not have your consent.
    1. This can be done in a non-confrontational manner to avoid escalation. Simply say "no thank you" or "you have to ask permission first" with a polite smile on your face.  Most issues can be resolved through positive, open, meaningful, two-way communication.

If you are unsure of wording, please feel free to refer to our consent posters hanging off the balcony at the club.

If you do not feel comfortable communicating your concerns directly to said person, advise a senior Eden staff member who will then work with you to create a resolution, educate or take action as necessary. You can generally find a senior staff member in our office all night, or at the entry to the play areas after 10:00pm.

 

What if I Experience a Repeat Consent Violation from the same Member?

Please IMMEDIATELY stop what you are doing and find the Eden "Manager on shift" to attend to this situation.  It is important to tell the manager right away so that we can locate the member and take immediate action.  If you wait until later, we may not be able to even identify who the member was which leaves opportunity for him or her to re-offend in the future.

 

What if I Witness a Consent Violation?

  1. Check in with the person you think experienced a “consent violation” and ask if they need assistance or if there was consent.
  2. If there was no consent, please take a moment to RESPECTFULLY educate the person on our CONSENT culture.
  3. We have a number of consent posters hanging from our balcony level showcasing our consent crew. Feel free to refer to these illustrations for guidance.
  4. DO NOT engage in public shaming – either in person at the club, or online. Education is a process and needs to be done respectfully and positively to be effective. Public shaming often leads to an unhealthy escalation and “poor outcomes because there is no pathway to repair.” For more details on this topic, check out this article here: https://theconversation.com/the-power-of-public-shaming-for-good-and-for-ill-38920.
  5. RESPECT and EDUCATION is just as important as CONSENT in our culture. Please do your part to help educate, guide and advise in a positive manner.

 

 

Can I send Unsolicited Dick Pics or Explicit Photos in Private Messages?

At Eden, we love sexy pictures and celebrate the human body.  But,  dick pics, vaginas and images showing explicit sexual acts should only be sent after first obtaining permission from the recipient.  Get CONSENT...then get SEXY!

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